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The STOP Program: For Women Who Abuse — Group Leader’s Manual
by David B. Wexler (Norton, 2016), paperback, 240 pages
$32.00 ea Qty:
 

The STOP Program For Women Who Abuse - by David B. WexlerNEW! Long disregarded and downplayed, female domestic violence is today rapidly gaining awareness as research proves not only that it exists, but that—according to multiple incidence studies—the frequency of women actually initiating abusive behavior is about equal to men. While certain core elements of intimate partner violence are shared among all domestic violence offenders, female offenders face unique triggers, personal backgrounds, and relationship dynamics. The STOP Program: For Women Who Abuse is the most innovative and comprehensive manual to address domestic violence treatment specifically to female offenders, with a program targeted to engage women in their own healing process. This program will radically change the landscape for treatment of women who abuse.

This comprehensive instruction manual for group treatment offers therapists, social workers, and other counselors sound, psychologically-based interventions to reach the very women who often seem unapproachable in a treatment setting.
 
NOTE: The Handouts and Homework workbook can be ordered separately (see next item below).
ALL GROUP MEMBERS MUST HAVE THEIR OWN PERSONAL, ORIGINAL COPY OF HOMEWORK AND HANDOUTS-COPYING THESE FORMS IS A VIOLATION OF COPYRIGHT LAWS.
 

The STOP Program: For Women Who Abuse — Handouts and Homework
by David B. Wexler (Norton, 2016)
$12.00 ea Qty:
 

The STOP Program For Women handouts - by David B. WexlerNEW! This program addresses the rapidly increasing awareness of female domestic violence and need for quality treatment services. Developed and field-tested for over twenty-five years among military and civilian populations, this program integrates contemporary interventions and client-centered guidelines to treat domestic violence offenders—who happen to be female. Based on the acclaimed domestic violence treatment program STOP Domestic Violence, which focused on male domestic violence offenders, this book recognizes what is now being widely accepted, abuse is abuse regardless of gender, and must be treated.

These worksheets and exercises, fully integrated with the main book, keep group members actively engaged in overcoming their abusive behaviors. Packaged as loose-leaf sheets, they can be added, removed, or rearranged to suit the needs of any leader administering the program.

PLEASE NOTE: ALL GROUP MEMBERS MUST HAVE THEIR OWN PERSONAL, ORIGINAL COPY OF HOMEWORK AND HANDOUTS-COPYING THESE FORMS IS A VIOLATION OF COPYRIGHT LAWS.
 

Men in Therapy: New Approaches for Effective Treatment
by David B. Wexler (Norton, 2009)
$32.00 ea Qty:
 

Men in Therapy - a new book by David B. WexlerIn Men in Therapy, Dr. David Wexler illuminates the ways in which cultural norms and assumptions color the male experience of psychotherapy. He explains how the traditional notions of masculinity (the “Guy Code”) keep men away from the therapist’s office and inhibit men trying to benefit from counseling and therapy. In this ground-breaking book, therapists are offered a rich understanding of these issues and even richer set of guidelines and strategies for engaging men in new and creative ways.

Men enter the world of counseling due to a wide range of needs and come from a wide variety of backgrounds, and they do not always show up voluntarily. Individual chapters are devoted to the treatment of men in relationships, men suffering from depression, fathers, men who abuse women, and men of color. Wexler provides a fresh perspective on the issues unique to each group, plus sound advice and common sense methods for treating each of these groups effectively, nonjudgmentally, and professionally. He draws on contemporary research, his 25 years of extensive clinical experience, and his own experience of therapy as a man, to equip the therapist with the knowledge and confidence necessary to provide effective therapy to men.
Click here to download a descriptive flyer (PDF)click
 

The STOP Domestic Violence Program-3rd edition
(revised & updated) Group Leader’s Manual

by David B. Wexler (Norton, 2013)     English version  –  professional book
$32.00 ea Qty:
 

STOP Domestic Violence Program - by David B. WexlerThe latest revision of the highly successful Domestic Violence 2000, this Third Edition of the STOP Domestic Violence Program integrates innovative interventions and client-centered guidelines to successfully treat male domestic violence offenders. Developed and field-tested for over twenty-five years among military and civilian populations internationally, Dr. Wexler’s program offers therapists, social workers, and other counselors a new level of sound, psychologically-based interventions that actually reach the very men who often seem so unapproachable in a treatment setting.

Treatment providers will find new sessions on the effect of trauma on domestic violence, survivor guilt, the use of mindfulness and gratitudes, and intimacy training—as well as an innovative supplementary program that integrates a Level II substance abuse focus into treatment. Presented in a 26- or 52-week psychoeducational format, STOP is packed with updated skills, training exercises, articles, video clips, handouts, homework, and other resources that push participants to examine the role of shame and aggression and gives them new tools to manage the powerful relationship issues with which they struggle.

The STOP Domestic Violence Program-3rd Edition offers group leaders everything they need to understand male domestic violence and the interventions to make a difference.
 
NOTE: The Handouts and Homework workbook can be ordered separately (see next item below).
ALL GROUP MEMBERS MUST HAVE THEIR OWN PERSONAL, ORIGINAL COPY OF HOMEWORK AND HANDOUTS-COPYING THESE FORMS IS A VIOLATION OF COPYRIGHT LAWS.
 

The STOP Program-3rd edition Handouts and Homework
by David B. Wexler (Norton, 2013)    English version
$12.00 ea Qty:
 

STOP Domestic Violence Program handouts - by David B. WexlerFully integrated with the STOP Domestic Violence Program, these handouts are critical to keeping group members actively engaged in overcoming their abusive tendencies. Packaged as functional loose-leaf sheets, they can be added, removed, or rearranged to suit the needs of any group leader. Each participant receives his own set of Handouts and Homework and brings this with him to each group session.

PLEASE NOTE: ALL GROUP MEMBERS MUST HAVE THEIR OWN PERSONAL, ORIGINAL COPY OF HOMEWORK AND HANDOUTS-COPYING THESE FORMS IS A VIOLATION OF COPYRIGHT LAWS.
 

Is He Depressed or What?: What to Do When the Man You Love Is Irritable, Moody, and Withdrawn
by David B. Wexler (New Harbinger, 2005)
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Is He Depressed or What?: What to Do When the Man You Love is Irritable, Moody, and Withdrawn, by David B. WexlerIf you think the man in your life is suffering from depression, this book can help you recognize his symptoms and help him in overcoming his depressed feelings. This book will also show you how to take care of yourself and not get lost in his depression. It provides a range of strategies you can use to communicate with him effectively, cope with his physical symptoms like insomnia and sexual dysfunction, and rebuild intimacy in your relationship. Ultimately, the book offers compassionate (if sometimes firm) advice to help you do what’s best for him, for you, and for your relationship.
Click here to download a descriptive flyer (PDF)click
 

When Good Men Behave Badly: Change Your Behavior, Change Your Relationship
by David B. Wexler (New Harbinger, 2004)
$16.95 ea Qty:
 

When Good Men Behave Badly: Change Your Behavior, Change Your Relationship, by David B. WexlerA compassionate and insightful resource for men seeking to learn about their own emotional responses and their relationships – and for the women they love. This book offers examples of men's successes, and contains specific structured exercises and strategies to help you transfer its ideas into your own life.

Learn about the three factors that contribute to deficits in male emotional intelligence and relationship competence:

  • Many men have difficulty recognizing and labeling internal states.
  • Many men easily become "emotionally flooded" in the face of not-so-masculine emotions.
  • Many men feel pressured to "take action" or escape in the face of uncomfortable

Working from these three core assumptions, When Good Men Behave Badly explores the triggers that can lead to damaging behavior. It offer a series of specific, focused techniques to help men generate alternative responses when faced with previously unbearable emotions.
 

Sin Golpes: Como Transformar la Respuesta Violenta de los Hombres en la Pareja y la Familia  by Christauria G. Welland & David B. Wexler
An Integrated Skills Program for Latino Men With Cultural Adaptations
Spanish version  –  professional book
$28.00 ea Qty:
 

Sin Golpes: Transformar la Respuesta Violenta de los Hombres en la Pareja y la FamiliaThis new Spanish edition is much more than a translation
Sin Golpes was originally developed and field-tested in English for the U.S. Navy over a 13-year period. Using client centered guidelines, the manual integrates a lively package of cognitive-behavioral skills and psychoeducation about abuse while maintaining the primary emphasis on respect for the abuser himself.

It contains:

  • Adaptations and expansion of content specific to Latino culture, based on qualitative research, demographic data, and the literature on family violence.
  • An introduction to the Spanish edition, including cultural guidelines on methodology for Latino offenders and therapeutic strategies that are likely to be effective for Latinos.
  • The use of simple vocabulary, with definitions of words that many group members may not have heard.

The eight sections are presented from the perspective of Latino clients:
Foundations, brief interventions, self-management, human rights, parent education, relationship skills, spirituality and prevention, and relapse prevention.

The program includes:

  • A compact disc included with the manual, of relaxation exercises to be used in group.
  • Exercises, handouts, and homework assignments to help clients deal with the powerful issues with which they are struggling.
  • Client workbooks can be ordered separately (see below)

Download a descriptive flyer (Spanish) (PDF)click
 

Sin Golpes: Cuaderno de trabajo  
by Christauria G. Well and & David B. Wexler
Group Leaders’ Manual and Men’s Workbook
Spanish version  –  professional book
$14.00 ea Qty:
 

Sin Golpes: Transformar la Respuesta Violenta de los Hombres en la Pareja y la FamiliaComplete set of handouts and homework for group members to use throughout the treatment program. The program includes:

  • A compact disc included with the manual, of relaxation exercises to be used in group.
  • Exercises, handouts, and homework assignments to help clients deal with the powerful issues with which they are struggling.
PRISM Relaxation CD (RTI)   $95.00/CD $95.00 ea Qty:
 

Sixteen creative and well-tested approaches to guide clients of all ages into state of relaxation/medication/centeredness—something for everyone's taste and personal interest!

The Broken Mirror: A Self Psychological Treatment Perspective for Relationship Violence (RTI)  –  professional article $2.95 ea Qty:
 

This journal article by Dr. Wexler highlights the self-psychological perspective on male domestic violence. This orientation reflects a fundamental respect for the psychological needs and pressures of the abusive male and encourages clinicians to utilize this perspective as a way of more effectively reaching this population.
Click here to download a 13-page description (PDF)click
 

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